In his new book “You Can’t Be Serious,” actor Kal Penn announced that he was engaged to his 11-year-old partner Josh, according to People.
“I’m really excited to share our relationship with readers,” Penn told People. “But Josh, my partner, my parents and my brother, four of whom I am the closest in the family, are quite calm. They don’t like attention and avoid the spotlight. ”
Penn is arguably best known for his role as Kumar in the “Harold & Kumar” film series. He also worked for the White House for two years under the Obama administration.
“You Can’t Be Serious” is Penn’s memoir and details not only his life, but his relationship with Josh as well as intimate moments such as their first date.
“Understanding the narrative [in the book], of how to respect who they really are, in telling my story – this includes: my professional life, both in Hollywood and Washington, it includes my love life with Josh and the how we met, that includes my parents, as far as I’m willing to share stories about their upbringing, ”said Penn.
Discussing his sexuality, Penn said he discovered this part of himself later in his life in relation to those around him.
“There is no timeline for this stuff,” he said. “People find out about their shit at different times in their lives, so I’m glad I did when I did.”
Penn told People he wanted the book to look like he and the reader were “having a beer together”.
“I was like, if we’re supposed to feel like we’re having a beer together, then I want to take you into my stories and I want you to live them with the same joy that I experienced them,” said Penn. . “This is how my friends met my parents and Josh because they got to know them over the past 10 years.”
He joked that after telling his parents he wanted to be an actor, any subsequent conversation became much easier.
“They’re just like, ‘Yeah, alright.’ I felt very supported by everyone. It is a wonderful thing. I know everyone has different experiences with this and I feel really, really lucky, ”Penn told People.
“You Can’t Be Serious” is due out on Monday.
Kalhan Rosenblatt is a reporter covering youth and internet culture for NBC News, based in New York City.
Kal Penn is set to publish a new memoir, You Can’t Be Serious , on November 2, but the book covers one aspect of his life he can’t help but spoil a few days earlier: He’s in a relationship with a man named Josh for 11 years, and the two are now engaged. Penn, who is probably even better known for the Harold and Kumar movies, I first spoke about on CBS on Sunday morning today, but he also sat down with People to share a few more details.
Penn says he and his partner met during the sabbatical he took from acting to work with Barack Obama’s White House, and on their first date he showed up with “a pack of 18 Coors Light ”and an insatiable desire to watch NASCAR. “The next thing you know,” he says, “it’s been a few months and we watch NASCAR every Sunday.”
Penn says he discovered his sexuality “relatively late in life compared to a lot of other people,” but all of his friends and family were very supportive. He admits that it “sounds like a joke”, but he says that “when you’ve already told your Indian parents and the South Asian community that you intend to become an actor for a living, really all the conversations that follow are super easy. “
That being said, he says his fiance, parents, and brother are all very private, so he didn’t want to put anyone in the spotlight with his book while being “genuine” from his point of view. He says that “the point” was to make readers feel like “we are drinking a beer together”, so he wanted the book to evoke “the same joy” that he felt living through the different stories there. recount. Again, it will be available on November 2.